Your ceremony is the heart of your wedding – a romantic, timeless moment! You want it to reflect your personality, heart & soul; to strengthen your connection, expand your love & support your relationship.

It will be my honor to celebrate with you on this special day…
To collaborate with you in creating
The wedding of your dreams…
Elopements or grand affairs,
Ocean views or mountain tops;
From the traditional to the unique,
Your relationship – a vision of hope created by love.
A ritual of life where beloveds unite with promises to keep.
Your wedding – a lovers dream come true.
Your ceremony – a joy to offer from my heart and soul -
Because it matters!

I’m Reverend Janice Arlene Rost, an ordained, licensed and skilled Interfaith Minister/Wedding Officiant. It would be my joy to serve as celebrant for this most memorable day. I’m here to support your vision as an Experienced, Inter/Multifaith Celebrant offering Beautiful, Meaningful, Personalized Ceremonies Joyously Presented with Elegance, Warmth & Spirit. My Ministry is Inclusive – Spiritual, Faith, Humanistic, Civil, Same Sex; it Incorporates the Traditional Tailored for Today, and for You.

I can travel to your venue or I can accommodate small groups at my Briarcliff Manor location, indoors or out by the lake (with fountain!).

Most couples I serve have little or no religious affiliation…
They are interfaith, intercultural, humanistic; some describe themselves as spiritual, some are not, and some haven’t decided. Some couples cannot marry in their house of worship, or choose not to. Some want their ceremony short and sweet, some want more than a few words to make it legal. Some are more expressively romantic, others more reserved.

Some couples find me searching the web, some from wedding venues and many have simply been referred to me…by people who know me, some of whom I have served in some way, or by their guests, or by colleagues and wedding professionals.
The couples who select me as their Officiant/Celebrant usually have one thing in common… they want their ceremony to express and strengthen their love and commitment to one another, on the day of their wedding, and for many years to come.

For your uniting in love, as your ceremonial artist I will create with you, a beautiful, meaningful, romantic and personal ceremony…
You may be the “short and get-it-over with” person or the “flourishes and ritual” fancier, you may know what you want, or not have a clue. Your circumstances will vary – length of time together, number of marriages, already married and renewing your vows, children and blended families, living together or in different locations, etc. Please be assured, your ceremony will express the heart and soul of your current and future relationship.

You may wish to include within the ceremony rituals that address specific circumstances. For example, candles, wine, and flowers can be symbolically used with the couple or with family members to express unity. Especially for “blended families,” recognizing and involving children in the ceremony is a strengthening, and sometimes healing, experience.

You may wish to express a variation of a cultural or religious tradition or ritual within the ceremony. I enjoy these sometimes challenging opportunities take one or more tradition, make it meaningful and accessible. From Japanese sake and German beer, to Mexican lassos and hand fasting, to smudge and sand and Namaste, your story and journey of how you came to this day – I’ll creatively honor your personal expression.

Using the words you choose, selected from my vast reference library, I weave your message of love and commitment into a beautiful, tasteful ceremony with meaningful words and promises – one that reflects who you are as individuals, and as a couple – a ceremony that gathers your family and friends into a circle of love, a community of witnesses who will support and may even emulate your vows.
In addition to receiving compliments on your ceremony and its presentation, you will draw strength from knowing that you’ve heard and spoken words expressing what you aspire to live by.

“…We have the ceremony, and we love it. The more elaborate questions and revised vows now include everything that we want to express on that day, and we couldn’t be happier with the wording. Thank you for taking the time to work through all of that with us. Your patience and support made that process possible.” Peggy and Neil, Brooklyn, NY

Wedding Services include…

* Officiating your ceremony
* Complimentary interview and Pre-marital session
* Ceremony options and preparation
* Post wedding session option
* Help with venue selection and professional referrals
* Coordination with professionals involved with your ceremony
* Travel to your wedding site (one hour)
* Assistance with marriage license formalities
* Keepsake ceremony
* Stress reduction and mystery removal regarding the time before, during and after the ceremony
* Credentials and Invaluable Talent and Experience!

 Ceremony Options and Preparation:

“Ready to Wear”…Based on what I’ve learned about you, I’ll offer ceremonies from which you choose the one that suits you as is. You will have many appropriate choices that can be “tweaked” to make it fit right. This may be useful if very close to ceremony date, or if you are on a tight budget.

“In Office Composite”…This package gives you the ability to make choices and leave the rest to me. Based on what I’ve learned about you, I’ll show you ceremonies from which you can create your own. You’ll choose what you like and, with my guidance, come up with a ceremony outline. After I’ve put it together, we’ll have a conference call to review and “rehearse.”

 “Homemade Personalized Composite”…This popular option allows you to personalize a
ceremony in your own space and time with many reference options from my extensive collection. Couples often experience creating their ceremony together as a special time where they learn more about themselves and each other as they discuss their preferences and philosophies on love, partnership, and family.

Based on what I’ve learned about you from our session, I’ll show you material from which you can create a ceremony draft. The readings, blessings, and rituals, I suggest result from my getting to know you and your preferences, and my experience. I have various styles of expression for candles, wine, flowers,
children, designed to reflect your unique relationship and families.

You choose several you like and I’ll e-mail these and other documents containing readings, vows, etc. to broaden your choices. You will also receive a document to guide you in creating your “draft.” In the comfort of your home, you can review, discuss and select what you want in your ceremony. When
satisfied, you will send me your draft.

I’ll then enter into my process of editing and enhancing. Next we schedule a telephone conference. The first part is for review and feedback; we collaborate until we’re satisfied. Then we have a “rehearsal” – what to expect before, during and after the ceremony. My aim is to unveil the unknowns and offer suggestions that will help you feel as comfortable as possible.

Your finished ceremony will be an artistic blend of your input and mine. I will make my final edits and mail you a copy of your ceremony. You can get familiar with it and hopefully, live out its essence!

“Customized Composite” (Self-Created, New Words, Ideas, Rituals)…I love to create and write
meaningful rituals and will do so with words, etc. that express your personal needs and are comfortable for me as your minister…

You’ve put together an outline you’re basically happy with and you want to make sure it’s as beautiful and meaningful as it can be. I’ll read your submission and make suggestions for enhancing it. The three of us will collaborate until we are satisfied. If you introduce new material, ideas, etc. I’ll capture the essence of your thought and weave words and/or ritual, to express it. Using my ability to transform concepts, I’ll keep in mind the big picture while working with the important details (flow, logistics, etc.)

Whichever option you choose to create your ceremony, you will have a ceremony that expresses your love, supports your relationship, and fulfills your dreams.  

“Celestial Room” by Lemyre

You’re at the entrance, the threshold of your dream.
Now is the time. You are ready.
The door is open
New life is inviting…

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“Blessings on You
as you take the next steps
on your path.
May Beauty and Strength
walk with you.
May the winds
and the rains anoint you.
May you experience
all creation as friend -
and may Gratitude
be your constant companion
in the dance of life.”

(c) Pat Bergen, CSJ, Ministry of the Arts
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Let’s take the next steps on your journey together…
To discuss your Heart and Soul Matters, for further information, or to make an appointment,
Contact me for a complimentary conversation.

Janice Arlene Rost – HeartAndSoul Matters
Serving NY Metro, Westchester County and Surrounding NJ & CT since 1990 with…
HEARTFELT COUNSEL AND CEREMONIAL SERVICES
for life’s occasions, transitions, celebrations and challenges

“When Heart and Soul matter, all things are possible.”

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Individual and Relationship Counsel and Enrichment Services…Psychotherapy, Counseling, Pre-Nuptial and Marriage Counseling, Family Counseling, Mental Health Counseling, Holistic Counseling, Psycho-Spiritual Counseling, Life Coaching

Integrated Therapy…Holistic Health & Wellness Counseling, MindBodySpirit Tapestry© Stress Reduction Techniques: Reiki-Plus, Cranio-Sacral, Energy Balancing & Healing, Breathwork, Hypnotherapy, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT/TFT), Visualization, Imagery

Presentations and Workshops…Communication Skills, Intentional Loving, Boundaries, Forgiveness, and more.

Ceremony Services to Honor and Heal…Support for your life cycle occasion and transition – the celebrations and challenges – with a therapeutic personalized ceremony

Stress-Less Services…A Variety of Personal, Home, and Office Services provided with Extraordinary Care – Assistance for Writing, Website Enhancement, Computers, Organizing/DeClutter, Events…

“The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost,
to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

We all face challenges that become opportunities to learn and grow; I support your choice to live fully alive. I feel honored to walk with another human being on their life’s journey as they gain insights, release patterns and overcome obstacles.

I regard therapy and counsel as gift to ourselves, and our relationships, a non-judgmental environment to be deeply heard within a supportive relationship. I’m experienced in addressing concerns and situations regarding the mind, body, emotions, and spirit. My work with individuals and couples is progressive, and powerful.

My approach is personalized and creative, heart-centered, and collaborative; both humanistic and spiritual. My style is holistic, eclectic, intuitive, and grounded in traditional Gestalt and Jungian psychology. I offer different modalities so you can choose what feels like the best fit. We can have dialog sessions until you may want to explore another complementary technique which can progress therapy faster than dialog alone. These stress releasing transformational “tools” include energy balancing, Breathwork, hypnotherapy, imagery, etc. and are effective alone or combined. Upon building a healthy foundation of self care, awareness, and acceptance, you can expect enhanced esteem, communication, intimacy, and harmony with yourself and others.

Are you ready for your newer and richer life experience?

We live and change and go through natural cycles. Relationships are like living breathing organisms in that they also evolve. Couples work offers an opportunity to explore and experience one another anew; to more clearly see and hear your partner. It’s a time when distractions are suspended and space for genuineness is opened, allowing each of you to witness and be seen in your authentic self. It is a time to make space for growth in ways you may never have imagined.

I work with people in relationship with each other regardless of “titles”, friends, co-workers, siblings, as well as couples, in all stages of relationship. We may be basically satisfied with our relationship yet know there are concerns that need addressing so they don’t continue or grow into relationship killers like resentment an contempt. We may have a sense that there is something within that gets triggered by, yet not directly related to our partner. We may feel the need for deeper physical, emotional or spiritual connection and don’t know how to get it. Or one day, we may wonder “Who am I?” or look at our partner and wonder “Who are you?”

Any of these situations may be the point in the relationship when we realize there are choices to be made. Do we call it quits, live together bored or miserable, or start working towards the next stage in our lives individually and together in the relationship. It’s easier when we keep in mind that we are all capable of increasing our power and skills of loving, and, that healing it is a process. One of my wise teachers told me that when your relationship feels like a hopeless mess, it’s more likely that “there’s a swamp in your relationship, and not that your relationship is a swamp!”

Our relationship with everyone and everything is a vital part of interconnected life. I believe learning and evolving is our purpose for being in all our relationships – as individuals, and as couples. As you may have experienced, the most challenging are with those we love! This is because “Love brings up anything unlike itself for the purpose of healing and release.” We serve as mirrors for each other, so we can see ourselves for our self-study. Therefore it’s harder to hide from our issues when we are in an intimate relationship. This may seem like the downside of love, yet the challenges that come up are really opportunities for growth and greater intimacy.

There is practical foundational work we can do in addition to dealing with issues. We all can learn more about healthy communication as a key to resolving conflicts and in opening the space for greater intimacy, trust, and joy in a relationship. It sounds easy and appealing in the self-help books, and they can offer new and supportive information. However, “Active Listening” and other communication abilities are learned skills, ones that may not come naturally and may feel contrived and awkward in the beginning. They are most successful with “in the moment” coaching, and then practiced in all your relationships. It takes training, intention, commitment and lots of good will. And with this foundation, we can grow deeper in intimacy as we experience the power of intentional love in a relationship that evolves and thrives.

“Love is an intention.
It is not just something that happens,
that you fall into.
It is something that you choose to do
because it is the way of truth
and it is the way of life.”
 Jerry Jud

In practice for many years supporting individuals and relationships along life’s journey, I’m experienced in addressing most concerns and situations regarding the mind, body, emotions, and spirit. I’ve helped many people, mostly young to older adults, to significantly improve the quality of their lives by gaining clarity, breaking through blocks, and achieving a sense of well-being. I see a diverse population of clients seeking support with issues including mental, physical, or spiritual health challenges from life-threatening illness to employment change, from the trauma of divorce to the joy of uniting, to managing a stressful life, feeling stuck, and getting their creative juices flowing.

One thing that people all over the world have in common is the desire to be happy. This inner desire we share is a motivating life force, sometimes buried, yet able to be recharged and resurrected. Therapy sessions can offer new perspectives that open your receptivity to the idea that we often have choices than we think. For example, we can replace the thought of “That’s impossible!” with “it’s possible!” which opens us to hope. Woody Guthrie said “We are all hoping machines.” I agree. Please be clear this is not about “magical thinking”; it is about reframing and replacing thoughts and actions that no longer serve us, with those that do. We still have to keep taking the steps leading to our goals and desires, yet we may now be able to make better choices that avoid blocks to success.

My practice covers mental/emotional/behavioral issues such as – anxiety, bereavement, mood fluctuations, depression, anxiety, stress, PTSD, low self-esteem, relationship concerns, abuse, transition adjustment, identity/gender concerns, addictive patterns. Also challenges of physical illness or injury, and food related issues; spiritual and philosophical questions relating to the “Who am I; where am I going?’ stages of life.

Your therapeutic process can be short or long term; sessions can include life and wellness coaching as well as in-depth process to meet your goals. My work with individuals and couples is progressive and powerful; my approach is active and process-oriented; personalized and creative, eclectic, heart-centered, intuitive, occasionally humorous, and collaborative. I provide a non-judgmental, comfortable setting where you are seen as an individual and heard as a unique being on your own journey, with strengths, gifts and vulnerabilities; capable of learning, healing and growth. I’ll support you with empathy, insight and new possibilities as you gain insights about your own thoughts and behaviors – both those that work for you and those that are counterproductive. Using this as a roadmap, we can clear obstacles and utilize strengths along the path to your destination. I’ll help you clarify your issues so you can manage them more effectively or resolve them. Together, we’ll build a healthy foundation open to possibilities with good will, self-care, awareness, compassion and acceptance. From these supportive roots, you can expect increased esteem, confidence, communication and connection skills, as well as peace and harmony with yourself and others.

I offer complementary medicine modalities including energy balancing, cranio-sacral, breathwork, hypnotherapy, imagery, stress release etc.; techniques that can progress you more effectively than with dialog alone. In session, we’ll look at what works, as well as what does not help you achieve the life you want. Effective counseling is a two way street. It takes a cooperative effort by both the person receiving counseling and the counselor. It is most effective when taking new insights and applying them in your life. To this end, I often give “lifework” to support you between sessions. In “real” life relationships and situations, you have an opportunity to expand your selection of responses and ground what you’ve learned. Whatever the result, you can choose to feel empowered by your efforts.

Verbal Therapy/Dialog Sessions for psychotherapy and psycho-spiritual therapy are where we begin. I’ll listen to your background history, your goals for therapy and your personal story. We’ll discuss options for a plan to meet your goals. We can continue in this modality as long as you want.

Body Centered Sessions are where you can expect goals and healing to progress faster than talk therapy alone. This is because when we talk (“stay in our heads”), it’s easy to be disconnected from our bodies where our “truth” and emotions reside and where intuition is accessed. When we talk we can easily rationalize, manipulate, judge, etc and respond from unhealthy old patterns which do not serve ourselves or others very well – you’ve probably heard “When you keep doing the same thing, you keep getting the same results.” Responding from this automatic mindset, we are blocked from the reality of ‘now’ and cannot access our truth and stay open to choices offering new possibilities.

My MindBodySpirit Tapestry© techniques balance energy within and around with dialogue, sound, image, metaphor, emotive release, and sometimes therapeutic touch. Hands-on-Healing can include Reiki, CranioSacral, Acupressure; Breathwork or Hypnotherapy does not involve touch.

All of us have the possibility of changing our perceptions and making new choices to experience life more fully alive; it’s easier with the guidance of an experienced caring professional. I’ve been holistic practitioner for 25 years and attentive to my own journey for much longer. If you are reaching out, stuck or uncertain of your next step, please call for a complementary phone consultation now! Remember, any first step is a good one!

You’re at the entrance, the threshold of your dream.
Now is the time. You are ready.
The door is open
New life is inviting…

  “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

A complementary and alternative healing modality compatible with western medicine and other forms of complementary healing. Reiki is a healing energy. Within the Universal Laws of Spiritual Consciousness, it is Unconditional Love. No matter where the person may be at a certain point in their life, Reiki will harmonize, opening the heart, expanding our love consciousness and advancing our evolvement. Reiki is a natural, non-invasive, soft touch hands-on-technique that is thousands of years old. In Japanese, “Rei” means Divine Intelligence, “Ki” is life force energy, that which animates all living creations. Reiki – is universal or spiritually guided life force energy used in healing the mind, body and spirit. The Reiki Ray is an extremely powerful healing energy. It is one of the few forms of healing that can be used to heal oneself.

Reiki is usually a hands-on-healing modality, which means that the giver’s hands rest on the recipient’s fully clothed body. Locations used are along the chacras lines and areas where unbalance is detected. Since it also works in surrounding energy fields, it is not necessary to lay hands directly on the body for it to be effective.

The Reiki technique balances the physical organs and glands controlling the functions of the body and its emotions. The applied use of Reiki can calm, heal and enliven both the giver and the recipient. It has been reported to release emotional and mental stress and toxins, reduce or eliminate pain, chronic and acute physical problems and maintain health. It can enhance spirituality, peace, balance, and create a general sense of well being.

My MindBodySpirit Tapestry(c) technique is often a combination of the complementary modalities of Reiki-Plus, Cranio-Sacral, acupressure, massage, imagery, dialog and mindful breathing.

One must experience this beautiful energy to fully appreciate it!

Energy Attunement Lineage of Rev. Janice Arlene Rost…

Reiki Plus™ I (1987)
Physio-Spiritual Etheric Body Healing (4/17/88)
Reiki Plus™ II (8/21/88)
Reiki Plus ®: Psycho-Therapeutic Reiki Healing @ Reiki Plus Institute
- by David G Jarrell, 24th Master in Reiki lineage in lineage of .Master Barbara McCullough also by Takata’s first granddaughter.

Reiki I and Reiki II Re-Attunements (2004), and Master Level (3/11/00)
–by Rev. Helen Celestine Escoffier (additionally attuned by Ethel Llombardi, one of 22 Reiki Masters attuned by Hawayo Takata, attuned by Dr. Mikao Usui, first Reiki Master.)

Christ Consciousness Attunements I and II (2003)
-by Rev. Ann Emerson. and Re-Attunements  by Janice Thomas (2004)

Continued trainings in various healing modalities (1985 – present).

I’m aware of living in this beautiful energy since my first initiation in 1987, although I suspect it’s been with me all along! I remain eternally grateful to all my teachers along my journey.

Some couples only care about the paper to make it official or only about the party afterwards; if so, that makes your choice easier. You’ll hire someone who gets the job done with a few standard words. Many couples seek a wedding Officiant who will help them create their dream wedding which includes a ceremony that is personal, romantic, beautifully crafted and delivered. For a ceremony that does all this as it unites them in marriage, they will search out information and carefully select. With a variety of vendors to choose from, there’s a variety of service style, offerings, quality, personality, etc.

It takes more than a license to be considered a quality professional in any field. Here’s some information to consider about people who perform wedding ceremonies…

Officiants have different preparation, talent, motivation, and experience. Some have extensive training, many have superficial training and others may get a license for the day. (Do you know it’s possible to get licensed to officiate a marriage on the internet or by attending a weekend workshop focused other than officiating?)

Some of the qualities I look for in choosing a professional are: individuals and companies with integrity – that are experienced, personable, reliable and highly skilled in what they offer. To find a good match I like to talk to them and consider  personality, style, inclusivity, ceremony choices and personalization, preparation, delivery, time for me, fee, etc.

Referrals can be helpful, and yet I still need to make an effort to see if they are right for me.

We can do our best to obtain information and use head, heart and intuition to make the best choice. Since you don’t have the comparison experience as you do with many other purchases in you life, and since you really won’t be able to fully judge until after the ceremony, this selection process can be daunting. However, please be reassured to know that with almost professional Officiant you choose, you will probably be satisfied with what you get. And you’ll be married!

Why Choose Rev. Janice?
What you get is quality service and reasonable rates! My distinctive process of ceremony creation offers you a superior selection of meaningful appropriate reference, giving you a variety of choices for the entire ceremony, and therefore, more personalization. In addition, you and your fiancé get invaluable experience, support and quality time together, discovering what matters most to your heart and soul.
Since you’ve been drawn to my site and taken the time to read this far before you choose an Officiant, I believe you really do care about the ceremony that unites you and your partner in marriage, and also about your celebrant. Here’s what I’d like you to know about me…
I am a professional and I really do care – about you and your wedding day.
And, I believe with you, that you can have your special day be joy filled and memorable!

I’ll give you my time and experience. With it, you’ll learn more than you imagined about yourself, your partner, and your relationship as well as about the before, during and after aspects of your wedding ceremony. I’ll give you friendly and professional high quality personal service, and a meaningful heartwarming ceremony crafted with attention to details. And, often overlooked yet vital, the ability to professionally and warmly present/officiate with joy, elegance and charisma, focusing on you, yet including everyone. I’ll keep the ordinary fresh and alive, as well as creatively and appropriately handle the unexpected with grace and humor. I’ll be there for you if your choice is for an experienced, caring, and gifted celebrant!

What sets me apart, (and will be best experienced as we go through the process) is that I have the essential and the additional skills, training, experience and heart to be considered one of the finest…

I hope this has been helpful – may you make a good choice!

Attention to details in setting, words, symbols, logistics, etc are important components of a well crafted ceremony/ritual. Its purpose is to achieve its intention, transporting you in mind and spirit, to your goal, your vision. Connection and felt emotions are signs of a good ceremony; it stimulates emotions appropriate to the service, from happy to sad, and also creates a stronger connection among the participants and witnesses. I feel blessed to be a ceremonial artist gifted with all the skills and experience needed to make ceremony and ritual a meaningful, memorable event for you and your guests.

It’s my joy to create a ceremony with and about You for your special day…
A tasteful blend of your vision with the classic and the contemporary,
Woven with spirit, Offered with love,
Touching all Hearts…

* Wedding, Commitment, Union, Vows Renewal: Spiritual, Faith, Civil…
* Blessing: Adult, Child, House, Land, Animal, Boat, Bike, Auto, etc
* Welcoming: Baptism, Christening, Naming, New “Family” Member
* Achievement: Graduation, Promotion
* Separation, Loss: Memorial,  Divorce,
* Cycles of Age: Maturation, Life Style Change, Retirement…

I believe there’s an abundance of blessings in our ordinary lives. And, that we are each able to give blessings in our expressions of good will and gratitude for who and what we do have. The Ceremonies I offer are carefully constructed and spiritually infused with intention for the highest good of the recipient – Baby, Child, Adult, Pet, House,  etc.  Customized ceremonies are co-created with the same personal process as weddings. “Blessings for Baby” and Weddings “Ceremony Packages, Options & Preparation” can be reviewed for more detailed information about my ceremony process. Please read  this information for an overview and/or contact me about any ceremony you’re considering; we can discuss the possibilities and you can hear a sampling of choices.

Pre-Nuptial Session Overview…During this session, couples learn more about themselves, their partner about Intentional Loving. They are grateful for our time together. There is no fee obligation for this session since almost all couples who have it decide they want me to officiate their ceremony. My time and expertise is valuable, and so, if you decide you do not want to hire me, a donation is appreciated. If you do hire me, a deposit of half the fee is expected (unless another arrangement is made).

The purpose of this time is to give you a chance to meet me face to face, and for us to get to know one another. I’m easy to talk to; even for someone who is quite shy. The length of our session depends on the package you will choose, and also how talkative you are!

In our relaxed, congenial session we establish our relationship and you will realize you’re with a supportive, creative and experienced relationship and ceremony counselor and Officiant. I’ll get to know you as individuals and as a couple, and you will get to know me. We will discuss your wedding, your relationship and the vision you have for your marriage. I’ll offer some helpful information about love and relationship. We’ll talk seriously and humorously, establishing a relationship that can continue as long as you want. The last part of the session will be devoted to your ceremony. Based on what I’ve learned about you, including any ideas you may have, I’ll show you resources from which you can create a ceremony that reflects your relationship and vision. If you are really curious about the ceremony reference, you can preview earlier in the session.

Assuming that we contract at this time, you’ll select the ceremony creation option you want. You will either compose your ceremony here or I will put your selections together with other reference and e-mail it to you. Please read the section on Ceremony Options for more details.

Location…My office, conveniently located in Briarcliff Manor, Westchester County New York, is easily accessible by car or train. A face-to-face meeting in my office with all reference material at hand, is ideal; however if necessary, another meeting place or a telephone conference can be arranged.

Pre-Nuptial Session Options

I invest in you and your relationship to help you nurture and enrich your commitment of heart and soul by offering support along the way to your wedding day and beyond. You can choose the amount of time we spend together with these options…

 “The Basic” Pre-Nuptial Session…This session of about 2 hours generally allows for an exchange of basic “getting to know you” information, enough to start the ceremony creation process. This is usually chosen by couples who don’t think relationship enhancement is necessary at this point, and would rather focus on the ceremony. I will, however, include an overview of The Principals and Skills of Intentional Loving as a foundation for a thriving relationship. This unique and valued guide is always well received.

“I Love my Relationship!” Pre-Nuptial Session…For the couple who wants to gift themselves with deeper together time, this longer session focuses on relationship and partnered life. This couple realizes there is more to learn and want to enhance their relationship, and/or have an issue to work on and want a fresh perspective from a qualified professional. In this session, in addition to the basic ‘get to know you’ questions, there are other interesting exploratory questions, resource materials, and an depth explanation of The Principals and Skills of Intentional Loving. We end with an experiential exercise using these skills, after which couples feel closer, more connected heart and soul. Then, in this loving space, you will begin the ceremony creation process. The session is about 3½ hours; it’s light and moves more quickly than it may sound…
As a Bonus Incentive – this package comes with an optional, complimentary session anytime before or after the wedding.

Post Wedding Sessions

I’m available for Relationship Enrichment counsel before and after your wedding. Believing that bumps in the road can be a catalyst for growth, and even become a reason for celebration, I offer gently effective, supportive coaching/counseling before and anytime after your wedding. The session offers opportunity to share your experience, practice deep listening and connective response with your partner.

We are all capable of growing in our powers and skills of giving and receiving love.
And, as you know, even the most loving relationships have rough spots; how you respond in words and actions, at every moment, is your choice. You might ask…
Is my response it automatic or mindful?
Is it working for me, my beloved and our relationship?
Is there something I can do differently that will get us to win-win/a better space?

To learn more, please go to Life Enrichment Services>Relationship Counsel and Enrichment

“…By the time Steve and I decided to get married, we had been a couple for 7 years. So, we just wanted to tie the knot so to speak, without the big production wedding that would delay our wedding date for yet another year. We set the date to be my late mother’s birthday, July 1st, which was only 3 or 4 weeks away. At first, I was ready to sign papers at the court house, but Steve wanted to have a little ceremony with his family and friends. That is when I thought of Reverend Rost, the inter-faith, non-denominational minister, who married my sister, Stefanie and Paul just 6 months before. I recalled their simple, yet elegant ceremony, and wanted ours to be that way, too. Steve and I contacted Rev. Rost, and explained to her our situation and the time constraints. Luckily for us, she agreed, and was willing to work with us even though she was already busy with other wedding ceremonies.

Rev. Rost invited us…to do the prenuptial marriage counseling. When asked if we wanted to do a 1 1/2 session or a 3 hour session, we decided on the latter because we wanted to get as much out of the therapy as possible. It turned out to be the right choice…The therapy session, I noticed that Rev. Rost had a very peaceful way about her. Although, I was a bit nervous with the wedding on my mind, she put me at ease with her calm, yet friendly nature. The whole therapy session lasted 4 1/2 hours, but we enjoyed it so much that we didn’t notice how long it was lasting. However, even at this time, Rev. Rost did not rush us out. Rather, she was very generous with her time and made it obvious that it was more important for her to know that we were satisfied with the therapy session. Steve and I are very grateful for this, because we both felt that we bonded in such a way that we had not experienced in all the years that we’ve known each other. The extended therapy session enabled us to become more emotionally ready for our marriage.

Steve and I feel that we made the right choice by having Rev. Rost as our minister in marriage…We are eternally grateful for Rev. Rost’s personal involvement, meticulous work, and most of all her wisdom and knowledge in creating a beautiful wedding ceremony. …I have already recommended Rev. Rost to a friend who is getting married next year…” Naomi and Steve, Brooklyn, NY

What are your fees? Realizing this economy has many of us trying to live with less to spend, my fees are
reasonable so I can say “yes” as often as possible! Since I offer personalized service, I’ll need to learn more about you in a conversation – your situation, needs, goals – and then discuss the fee.

Weddings and some other ceremonies have a range of fees. Your needs are variables that help determine the fee. I’ve created options to suit different preferences and budgets. The fee I quote is  based on quality professional service and average amount of total service time for you.

When should we get started? In general, the answer is “ASAP”. If calling for Healing Arts, you probably need your support now. If for a ceremony, the longer a mount of time before your date is best. As your time gets busier closer to the date, you will be less stressed if you know you have booked your minister well in advance and that your ceremony is in progress or completed. As for me, I’ll have you scheduled and can arrange my time better to give you and your ceremony the attention needed. I take clients on short notice as often as I can, and it can be challenging to fit in more to do, so let’s stress-less and book early

What makes a ceremony great? A well crafted ceremony/ritual is attentive to details in setting, words, symbols, logistics, and is presented by an accomplished, charismatic celebrant. Its purpose is to achieve its intention, transporting you in mind and spirit, to your goal, your vision. Connection and felt emotions are signs of a good ceremony; it stimulates emotions appropriate to the service, from happy to sad, and also creates a stronger connection among the participants and witnesses.

How long is a wedding ceremony? The average ceremony is about 20 minutes, the more or less mainly depends on your choices. You and your guests will be attentive to the ceremony, not the clock!

Do I have to memorize my vows, or anything? No, you don’t, that’s too much pressure unless you’re a seasoned actor who wants to do so. You will have the questions and vows before the ceremony so you can practice and live out your promises. If you are reading a poem I’ll coach you to be able to see the words and look at your partner.

Can I get a copy of my ceremony? A printed copy of your marriage/renewal ceremony is
complementary! Because your ceremony was written with meaningful words that support thriving relationships, I want you to have words to live by. Place a copy of if it or your vows where you can see them as inspiration and revisit your ceremony on your anniversaries as a wonderful memory. Or any day as a
supportive guide! A keepsake of other ceremonies is also possible.

What if you’re already booked or can’t… I’ll try to serve you personally, and/or will refer you to known colleagues and professional services if I’m not available or not a good match for your needs. Having seen many wedding professionals in action and as part of a large network of healing services professionals, I can often make referrals to meet your needs. I accept no commissions for most professional service referrals, I’m just happy to help.

Where are you and HeartAndSoul Matters located? My serene office overlooking the
lake is conveniently located in Briarcliff Manor (central west Westchester County) New York, easily
accessible by car or train. For Wedding clients, a face-to-face meeting in my office with all reference material at hand is ideal. However if necessary, another meeting place or a telephone conference can be arranged. Healing Arts sessions are in my office; home visits are made when necessary.

About the wedding site – can we get married in your space?  Yes! I can travel to your venue, recommend one,  or I can accommodate small groups at my Briarcliff Manor location, indoors or out by the lake (with fountain!).

So, let’s get started!

For further information, or to make an appointment,

Contact me for a complementary discussion to plan our next steps:

914-747-9188 Janice@HeartAndSoulMatters.com

Janice Arlene Rost, MSC, MSTh, MDW, RM, ACH – Interfaith Minister, Psychotherapist, Counselor, Mind/Body Integrative Therapist, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Facilitator, Ceremonial Artist, writer, artist…

I’m credentialed as a Minister of Spiritual Counseling and Divine Wisdom, and Master of Spiritual Therapy. I completed a four-year seminary program of Interfaith Ministry and Counsel, was ordained June 1989 in Columbia University’s St. Paul’s Chapel. Licensed in New York, and granted reciprocity in  additional states, I’ve been officiating weddings and other ceremonies since 1990. In addition to creating ceremony and community, I’m an Integrative Psychotherapist, experienced and gifted as a facilitator of healing for individuals, couples, and groups offering heartfelt support along life’s journey, enhancing relationships with self and others, in times of joy as well  as times of challenge.

I draw from over 30 years of life experience gained through personal  exploration, training, and apprenticeship with leaders in the healing and  ceremonial arts. Throughout the years, I’ve had the opportunity to connect with, and often help, a diverse socio-economic population with a range of  physical and mental wellness. In addition to creating ceremony and community, I’m an experienced, gifted facilitator of healing for individuals, couples, and  groups. Using the healing arts of Mind/Body/Spirit Tapestry in a caring  environment, I support individuals and couples along life’s journey, especially
during times of transition. My “listening” hands and heart combine with an  intuitive, empathetic, eclectic approach to create an integrated and  transformative experience.

Previous work history includes administrative, computer and social services employment by Westchester County, N.Y. - in Social Services and the Medical Center in Corrections and then Behavioral Health, as Community Social Worker for the mentally challenged.

I actively volunteer. Service has included: Parent Aide for child abuse prevention, Facilitator of Alternatives to Violence Project (AVP) workshops, Tribes Hill Music Board & Events, at The Tarrytown Music Hall and the Hammond Museum’s annual Blessing of Animals and Land.

I regard therapy/counsel as a gift to our self and to all our relationships. It brings light into the soul and to the world. I believe that we can all learn more about how to give and receive good will and love; that we all face challenges that are really opportunities to learn and grow. I support choices that nurture us to live fully alive, alone and in partnership.

I love people, am intrigued with how we think and feel and relate – alone and together. I believe the vital work we human beings have is about how we contribute actively and energetically towards the peaceful co-existence most of us want. For those of us consciously on our journey towards happiness, wholeness, freedom and peace, we know it begins within then projects outward – how we think, feel, act and live really does matter. All matter strives to maintain balance. With all w e do in our busy lives on this ever-changing planet, seeking and maintaining healthy balance in body, mind and spirit can seem a monumental, challenging task. And yet, it is an essential endeavor for and with our selves, the whole family of humankind, and all creation.

To be a balanced person living with a sense of well-being calls for respect, acceptance, good will, patience and unconditional love. We already have choice, what we need is courage, commitment and better transformative ‘tools’; we can learn more about mindful loving and use the skills of intentional loving with our self and in all our relationships. We can strive for feeling good – every creature wants that – or for optimal and thriving – it’s our choice.

It is my honor to walk beside you during the joyous times, as well as the most challenging of your life. I’ll listen deeply to your pain and struggles; I’ll celebrate you in your success and joy. I’ll offer supportive techniques and ceremonies that progress you along your journey. With caring support and wise guidance we can courageously surrender fears and embrace our strengths, hopes, vulnerabilities and brokenness. As we break walls and build bridges, we learn to recognize and respect our common human-ness. And from this foundational experience, we can move forward towards our goals and create collaborative partnerships that become positive role models in the art of relationship. This is what I strive for, within and around me. Do you?

I believe that When Heart and Soul Matters, all things are possible, and that…

“It begins with your own awakening, your own desire for a life that’s not just lived on the surface but is rich and deep and high and wide. For sure, that’s how I want to live. So I’m going to keep learning until I take my last breath.” — Oprah

Rebirthing – Take a Breath, Transform this Moment, Heal Your Life! I’ve trained in the technique called Rebirthing – a simple, gentle, yet powerful breathing technique, which can transform your mind, body, emotions and spirit. It can also transform how you perceive yourself, others and the world in general. It is common for us to hold our breath and/or breath in a shallow manner when we are stressed. Many of us have never learned how to breathe deeply and fully. Holding the breath causes unexpressed emotions to get pushed into the cells in the body. The body will often react by creating physical as well as emotional problems. When we inspire fully, we are more alive and in the moment because we are taking in the nourishing breath of life.

A Breathwork session can be transformative for anyone (my mother, while in her 70’s benefited!). I use Breathwork during some hands-on healing sessions, or alone, often in a series, for anyone uncomfortable with a hands-on approach. I encourage you to participate as much as you can during and in-between sessions. I serve as a facilitator and a breath coach. Helping to ensure that you breathe in a connected manner, and suggest changes to the breathing pattern to facilitate your process throughout the session. When breathing consciously, your body will relax. You release tension and negativity, and often access memories and unconscious thoughts, that don’t serve your conscious desires and goals, the ones that keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns. We will challenge the negative patterns by reframing the thoughts that create and perpetuate them.

I offer techniques that are successful in changing underlying thoughts. Incorporating new thoughts will allow you to change behavior patterns with less conscious effort. Breathwork, rebirthing is a true mind, body, spirit integrated experience, encouraging and supporting your true aliveness with a grounded sense of joy, inner peace, and harmony. The Rebirthing method is Self–Healing and will be taught to use it for yourself during our sessions!

I am indebted to the many Rebirthers, especially Deborah Fay, MA, who supported and taught me in my journey during the mid 80’s.